Why Trauma Therapy Can Be Life Changing in Your 20s and 30s
In your 20s and 30s, you might feel a strange mix of enthusiasm, stress, uncertainty, and emotional growing pains. You are trying to figure out who you are, how to take care of yourself, and how to succeed in your career while also nurturing friendships and making time for dating. That’s a lot to juggle. And, when you add unresolved trauma to the mix then even the most boring of the regular day to day might feel like too much to handle.
Trauma doesn't always stem from obvious events like emotional or physical abuse or a car accident for example. Sometimes, small things can affect how safe you feel in the world. Have you noticed patterns in your behaviour that don't make sense? Maybe you shut down when things get tough, overthink every text message, or feel like you have to do everything perfectly all the time. You may feel worried for no reason at all. Trauma therapy helps you understand why you feel and behave this way and helps you live with more confidence and clarity.
One of the hardest things about being in your 20s and 30s is that you are still trying to figure out who you are. If you are simultaneously attempting to change habits or behaviours that have been with you for a long time and feel like you are coming up against a brick wall, trauma therapy might be the thing that unlocks it all for you. With the help of a therapist, you can figure out what's really going on and learn new skills that will help you become the person you want to be. Therapy gives you a safe space to look at all the things that make you who you are, even if you're not sure if they were traumatic.
A lot of people who come to therapy want to know why they feel stuck even if they are doing all the right things. You could have a nice job, excellent friends, a great place to live, good health and still feel anxious, disconnected, reactive, or unsure of yourself. Trauma therapy helps you understand that your nervous system is not broken. It’s acting exactly how it was taught to behave and thankfully, it can learn a new way of being if it gets the right support.
How trauma can show up
Here are some signs that you may be dealing with trauma in your 20s and 30s.
• Feeling overwhelmed by dating or relationships
• Not being able to trust people or open up
• Overthinking or replaying conversations
• Burnout, people pleasing, or perfectionism
• Emotional numbness or feeling checked out
• Struggling with boundaries
• Anxiety that seems to come out of nowhere
Trauma therapy gives you the tools you need to work with your mind, body and emotions instead than against them. Therapies like EMDR, CBT, DBT, and somatic therapy can help you heal from events from the past, change patterns that aren't helpful, and feel safer and more grounded. And, you don't have to know which therapy is best for you. Your trauma therapist will assist you in figuring out what you need for your specific situation.
One of the best things about trauma therapy is realizing that your feelings are normal. When you know why you feel or act a certain way, you can begin responding differently. You’ll understand your triggers and have more control over your feelings and reactions. You’ll stop doubting your worth or the choices you make and start trusting yourself and your abilities.
Creating a future that feels safe and stable through trauma therapy
Taking care of your mental health in your 20s and 30s is a gift to your future self. It changes how you talk to people, the goals you establish, the boundaries you set, and the relationships you build. You learn how to live your life with less fear and doubt and embrace more serenity and confidence.
Trauma therapy is highly effective at helping you figure out what's going on beneath the surface if you're feeling stuck, detached, overwhelmed, or confused about why some patterns keep showing up. If you’re ready to take the next step then schedule a free consultation with Wild Sage Therapy and start healing in a way that feels supportive, empowering, and aligned with the life you want to create.