Relationships can play a big role in how you see yourself. You might feel confident and secure when things are going well but when things are not going well, it can have the opposite effect.  For a lot of people in their 20s and 30s, their relationships and self-esteem are very closely connected.

People with high-functioning anxiety often hide it by staying productive, achieving goals and being dependable. People who have it may appear calm and accomplished on the outside, but on the inside they are often worried, have racing thoughts, and have trouble relaxing. High-functioning anxiety is real, even though it isn't an official diagnosis.

It takes time and effort to build your self-esteem, especially in your 20s when there is pressure from new responsibilities such as jobs and relationships not to mention social pressures. All of this can make you doubt yourself and compare yourself to others. Being confident doesn't mean changing who you are.

At some point, dating can start to lose its appeal. You swipe, message, plan, go out and repeat. What used to be fun and feel like it was full of potential now makes you feel emotionally drained. If dating feels like a chore, there is usually a reason for it.

Career anxiety in your 30s isn't just about being worried about work. You might feel behind, be afraid of failing, doubt every choice you make, or be wondering what you should do next.

You can care deeply, talk things through, and still feel misunderstood. This blog reflects on why that happens in relationships, and what can help when things start to feel heavy.